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Episode 53 – What Do You See?
When you get up in the morning what do you think about and see? Do you expect your day to go well and for wonderful things to come to you, or do you expect things to be a struggle? Either way, you will probably be right!
In today’s Episode of Your Personal Power Pod we talk about what you choose to see and how it affects your life.
Episode 52 – Regrets
Have you ever done something, or not done something, and then later regrated it? Of course you have, because you’re human and humans occasionally make mistakes. The important thing is to be aware of it, pay attention to what happened and then decide what to do about it.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod, we look at regrets, what they are and how to deal with them.
Episode 51 – Where Do You Fit? Birth Order, Personality and Family Roles
We’re all born into some kind of family. It might have been a family with two parents, a family with just one parent, or some other kind of situation. However, when you were a baby there were adults taking care of you, and there might have been other children there either before or after you were born.
What’s important is where you fit in the family structure, because research has shown that your position in the family can affect your personality, behavior and view of the world.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we discuss the power of family.
Roles that children can play within a family:
· Hero: This is the “good” and “responsible” child. This person is a high achiever, carries the pride of the family, and he/she overcompensates to avoid looking or feeling inadequate. He/she is often a good leader and organizer, and is goal-oriented and self-disciplined. Sometimes the hero lacks the ability to play, relax, follow others, or allow others to be right.
· Rescuer: The rescuer takes care of others’ needs and emotions and problem-solves for others in the family. The rescuer might have difficulty with conflict. He/she takes on the role of rescuer in the name of helping others, though it is often to meet his/her own needs, such as relieving anxiety. This person doesn’t realize that sometimes helping hurts. He/she also lives with a lot of guilt and finds it challenging to focus on him/herself.
· Mediator: The mediator can be a rescuer-type although he/she works to keep peace in the family system. This person does the emotional work of the family to avoid conflict. He/she acts as a buffer, and does it in the name of helping others, although it may be for his/her needs. This can be a healthy role depending on how the person mediates.
· Scapegoat/Black sheep: This is the person the other family members feel needs the most help. Usually this is the family member in need of treatment or in treatment. This person often shows the obvious symptoms of the family being unable to work through problems. The person may have strengths such as a sense of humor, a greater level of honesty, and the willingness to be close to his/her feelings. Yet there can also be an inappropriate expression of feelings, and the person may experience social or emotional problems.
· Switchboard: This person is the central information center in the family. He/she keeps track of what’s going on by being aware of who is doing what and when. This person has strength in being the central person to go to and understanding how the family is doing. However, this person focuses on everyone else’s issues rather than his/her own.
· Power broker: This person works at maintaining a hierarchy in the family with him/herself at the top. His/her safety and security with life depends on feeling in control of the environment around him/her.
· Lost child: The lost child is the subservient good child. He/she is obedient, passive, and hidden in the family trauma. He/she stays hidden to avoid being a problem. Generally, this person is flexible and easygoing. However, he/she lacks direction, is fearful in making decisions, and follows without questioning.
· Clown: The clown uses humor to offset the family conflict and to create a sense that things are okay. This person has a talent to readily lighten the moment but he/she hides his/her true feelings.
· Cheerleader: The cheerleader provides support and encouragement to others. There is usually balance in taking care of his/her own needs while providing a positive influence on those around him/her.
· Nurturer: This person provides emotional support, creates safety, is available to others, and can be a mediator. He/she focuses on having and meeting emotional needs, usually in a balanced manner.
· Thinker: The thinker provides the objective, reasoning focus. His/her strength is being able to see situations in a logical, objective manner. However, he/she may find it difficult to connect emotionally with others.
· Truthteller: This person reflects the system as it is. At times the challenge is how that information is relayed. Other members in the family might be offended or avoid the truthteller because of the power of the truth he/she holds. Strength occurs when this person is coupled with another positive role, such as a nurturer or cheerleader.
Episode 50 – Interview with John Javna
Today we’re excited to bring you the 50th episode of Your Personal Power Pod, and are celebrating by interviewing John Javna. John is a bestselling author of countless books on environmental and political topics, including 50 Simple Things You Can Do to Save the Earth and the hugely successful Uncle John’s Bathroom Reader series, both of which have sold millions of copies. He is also a publisher, co-founder of ScienceWorks Museum in Oregon, and is the founder of the national Neighborhood Food Project.
John has had the courage to do a wide variety of things in his life, all of which were new to him when he began them. In today’s episode John shares how he tackled all these things, and the role self-esteem and personal power played in his success.
Episode 49 – Are You Overwhelmed?
When you have so much going on that you’re struggling to cope with it all, or you’re dealing with a specific stressful situation, you might feel overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed can cause you to be flooded by thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations that are difficult to manage.
Feeling overwhelmed is a normal response to everyday stressors. Things like constant news, social media, phones always demanding your attention, general work and family challenges, etc. can cause overwhelm. But when it becomes constant it can create problems.
In today’s episode we look at feeling overwhelmed, what causes it and what you can do to control it.
Episode 48 – Anxiety
Most people occasionally feel anxious. When you’re doing a new thing, or something that has been stressful in the past, it’s normal to feel some anxiety as you go into it. However, for some folks, anxiety can become a way of life, and they eventually feel the fear, dread and uneasiness about almost everything.
In today’s episode we talk about anxiety, what it is, where it comes from and how to deal with it.
Episode 47 – Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?
When you’re in your comfort zone you feel at ease because you’re not being tested. You don’t engage in new experiences or take on any challenges. You only participate in activities or stay in relationships that are familiar and make you feel “in control” of your environment. At times this can be a place to rest and rejuvenate, and can be a positive experience.
However, a comfort zone can also be a trap where you get stuck, stop growing or accomplishing things, your self-esteem diminishes and your life stalls.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we look at the positives and negatives of comfort zones, how to identify if you’re in one and how to get out of it so you can continue to create the life you want.
Episode 46 – What Do You Think?
People often believe that they are controlled by their feelings, or by things that just happen in their lives. They feel they are at the mercy of these things and just have to go with it. However, the reality is that is not true.
The great news is that your thoughts control your life, and since YOU are in control of your thoughts, you always have the power to be in charge of your life.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod, we look at what you are thinking, how powerful your thoughts are, and what kind of life you are creating with them.
Episode 45 – Coach Yourself to Success
Working with a coach has long been acknowledged as the most effective way to succeed in the sports world, and savvy business people have also learned the value of having a coach on their team. Even if you aren’t able to hire a coach to support you as you define and achieve your goals, you can still Coach Yourself to Success.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we look at the ways to coach yourself to create the success you desire.
Episode 44 – Drama
Drama is created when someone gets emotional about a situation, so that it quickly escalates and often gets out of control. We’ve all known people who react to life with drama, and dealing with it can be a challenge to any relationship.
In today’s episode we talk about drama. What it is, how to identify it, how it affects us, and how to deal with it.
Episode 43 – Difficult People
Most people are positive, happy, like to find the good in life and are a pleasure to be around. However, there are also those who always seem to expect, and find, the negative about everything. We call these difficult people. No matter how great things are, they are all gloom and doom, and are really uncomfortable to spend time with.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod, we look at the different kinds of difficult people, how to identify them, and how to protect yourself from their negativity.
Episode 42 – Taking Care of Yourself
When you were a child you were taught many rules and expectations about how you were to treat yourself and others. You might have been told that taking care of yourself and meeting your needs is selfish, and since nobody likes someone who is selfish you should always put yourself last.
The reality is that if you don’t love and appreciate yourself and your needs as much as you do those of others, you will find that it’s difficult to be happy and your life will be a struggle.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we talk about self-care. How important it is and what happens when it is, or is not, part of your life.
Episode 41 – Friendships
Good, positive friendships are an important part of a healthy, happy life. However, as one of our listeners who asked us to talk about this topic said, “friendships can be tricky.” Having good friends can bring happiness in many areas, but having people who you think are friends, but are actually negative and toxic, can cause you emotional, mental and physical pain.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we talk about all kinds of friendships and what you can do to create and make them great.
Episode 40 – Do You “Should” On Yourself?
When you were young you probably learned a set of rules about how to behave and what you should and should not do. Sometimes these were positive and still serve you well. However, often they were negative, and now that you’re an adult they might be holding you back from being your best self. We call these rules that have become self-talk in your head, “shoulds”, and it’s important to be aware of when you “should” on yourself and how that impacts your life. In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we look at your “shoulds” and how they affect you.
Episode 39 – How Do You Apologize?
When you’ve done something, on purpose or by mistake, that hurts another person, it’s vitally important that you give a sincere apology. How effectively you do this will make a huge difference in the quality and longevity of your relationships. In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we look at how you apologize.
Episode 38 – Do You Stay Stuck or Move Ahead?
When someone does you wrong, or things don’t turn out the way you want them to, do you hold on to it and relive the situation over and over, or do you learn the lessons and move on? As we’ve talked about in previous episodes, life is about change, and it can come from a variety of things. Whatever it is, you always have a choice about how to deal with it. You can continue to revisit the event, or you can learn the lessons and move on with your life. Your choice will make all the difference. In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod we look at being stuck and moving ahead.
Episode 37 – Interview with Jon Perry
Have you ever wondered how hugely successful people got that way? How they go from struggling to finding their niche to living the life of their dreams?
In today’s episode we have the honor of talking with the creator of a hugely popular Science YouTube Channel and founder of STATED CLEARLY, Jon Perry. Jon shares his journey from being a kid who was fascinated by science, to figuring out how to share his knowledge and wisdom with the world.
Episode 36 – Do You Talk or Listen?
When you meet a new person, what do you do? Do you talk about yourself and make sure they know everything about who you are, or do you ask questions and really listen to their answers? If you’re one of those people who likes to talk, you might be entertaining but probably don’t learn much or really connect with people. On the other hand, if you listen you will be amazed at what you find. In today’s episode we revisit communication, and the most effective ways to do it.
Episode 35 – Building Your Self Esteem
This podcast is about your personal power, which comes from positive self-esteem. In one of our early episodes we talked about self-esteem, and since then several listeners have asked us to talk more about where it comes from and how to build it. So, in today’s episode we discuss how to increase your self-esteem so you can be personally powerful and live your life filled with joy and success.
Episode 34 – Do You Know What You Don’t Know?
Are you one of those people who thinks you’re supposed to know everything?
Whenever you start something new, do you go into it assuming you already
know how it all works? It seems that these days it’s really hard for people
to admit they don’t know something because they think others will look down
on them for not knowing. However, this attitude can get you into a lot of
In today’s episode we look at the importance of knowing what you don’t know.
Episode 33 – Trust and Betrayal
Trust is when you have a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. When you trust, you place confidence in how something or someone will act, and make yourself vulnerable in the process.
When the person or thing you’ve trusted lets you down or doesn’t follow through, you feel betrayed.
Trust is a cornerstone of any good relationship, and in today’s episode we look at how trust and betrayal play out in your life.
You can listen to this episode, and all our episodes, wherever you stream your podcasts or on the website at www.yourpersonalpowerpod.com . Check us out on Instagram at Your Personal Power Pod.
Also, you can visit Sandy on her business and life coaching website at www.insidejobscoach.com to sign up for her free newsletter. Sandy Abell is a best-selling author, speaker, business and life coach and Licensed Professional Counselor. Shannon Young spent nearly 25 years in broadcasting on TV and radio, and is now focusing her efforts on empowering others to reach their full potential.
Episode 32 – What Do You Believe? – Revisited
When you look ahead to your day, your week, or your year, what do you expect? Do you believe that things will come together just as you want them to and all will be great? Or do you believe that even though you really want a certain outcome, something will happen to sabotage the result you want?
Either way you will probably be right!
In today’s episode we look at expectations and disappointment, and how you can manage them both.
Episode 31 – Do You Expect to Succeed or Fail?
Are you one of those people who decides you want something, sets the goal, backtracks to outline the action steps necessary to achieve it, and then believe it will work and moves ahead expecting to succeed? Or do you decide you want something, set the goal, and then start coming up with all the reasons why it will never work?
If you are the first kind of person, your life is most likely fantastic, and exactly as you want it to be. If you operate in the other way, you’re probably not living the life of your dreams, and might be confused about why nothing ever works out for you.
In today’s episode we look at success and failure and how both of those are achieved.
Episode 30 – Choices, Rewards, and Consequences
Are you aware that you make choices, big and small, all day long, throughout your life? Often you might not even notice you’re doing it, but you are.
How you choose to see things, and then the behavior choices you make based on that, determines the way your life unfolds. Since this is so important, in today’s episode we’re looking at choices, rewards and consequences, and the powerful impact they can have on your life.
Episode 29 – Endings and Beginnings
Recently it seems that things are changing at a rapid rate. People are moving far away, businesses are closed or have new owners and are not what they used to be, people are getting sick and dying, and attitudes seem to be different.
In a previous episode we looked at Change, Grief and Loss, and in today’s episode, we are revisiting that topic since it seems that so much has changed during and after the pandemic.
Episode 28 – Procrastination
Do you have a “round to it” problem? There are things you need to do to improve your finances, relationships, health or other areas of your life? Yet for some reason you never get around to doing them?
This is called procrastination, and it can stop you from ever achieving your goals or attaining the life of your dreams.
In this episode we look at what procrastination is, where it comes from, and how you can overcome it so you can move ahead in your life.
Episode 27 – What Do You Believe?
Have you ever really looked at what you believe? The thoughts, that come from your values and attitudes, that you run your life by? Many of us just take these for granted and follow them without thinking. However, these things form your belief system, which dictates how you conduct your life. You might believe that things will always work out well, and this attitude creates a happy and successful life. Or you might believe that things will never work the way you want and even when they are going well, something will go wrong. This usually ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy. You get what you expect, often based on your belief system.
In today’s episode we look at your belief system and how it affects your personal power and makes all the difference in your life.
Episode 26 – Respect
Have you noticed that in the past few years it seems that the concept of respect has gotten lost? Many people are so intent on promoting or defending their own beliefs that they’ve lost sight of other people’s humanity. Along with that, some people seem to have lost respect for themselves as well as each other.
In today’s episode of Your Personal Power Pod Sandy and Shannon look at the importance of respect and how it affects your personal power.
Episode 25 – Interview with Marketing Guru Robert Middleton
Have you ever wondered how highly successful people got that way? How they go from struggling financially, having no money or credit, and change that into living the life of their dreams.
In today’s episode we have the honor of talking with marketing guru Robert Middleton from Action Plan Marketing, about how he went from bankruptcy to doing the work he loves and making millions of dollars. Robert shares his journey and the role self-esteem and personal power played in his success.
Episode 24 – Routines, Habits, and Comfort Zones
We all have routines and habits we follow throughout our day. Some are positive and help us accomplish what we want, and others can be negative and stop us from being an effective person and living the life we want. In today’s episode we look at your routines and habits, how these repeated actions can create a comfort zone, and how these affect your personal power.
Episode 23 – Power and Control
Many people believe that power and control are the same thing. However, they are very different, and both can be used for positive or negative purposes. In today’s episode we look at what you do and do not have power and control over, and how to use these things in your life.
Episode 22 – Do you Settle?
Have you ever been in a situation where you feel stuck? You’ve settled for something even though it’s not what you want? A relationship, a job, a financial situation, etc. You might feel you don’t deserve anything else, or you might not know what to do next, or believe you deserve more but are staying where it’s comfy. Whatever the reason, you are unhappy. In today’s episode we talk about being stuck and settling, and what you can do to change that situation.
Season 1 Wrap Up
Thank you for listening to Season 1!
Season 2 will start in a few weeks! Let us know what you would like to hear on the podcast
Episode 21 – Dealing with Conflict
Unless you’re a hermit you probably have people in your life, and if you do, at times there will occasionally be disagreement about something. If you don’t handle it calmly, this disagreement can turn into conflict, which can get out of hand. In today’s episode we talk about what conflict is and the different ways you can deal with it.
Episode 20 – Are You Afraid?
How does fear operate in your life? Does it keep you safe from really dangerous things, or does it stop you from pushing your comfort zone and trying something new? In today’s episode we look at fear and the role it plays in your life.
Episode 19 – Who Are You?
In today’s episode we look at who you are. How you define yourself, and if this description fits the person you really are, or the person others want you to be. Do you see yourself as a list of labels (mother/father, employer/employee, etc., or as a human being who brings special skills and talents to the labels? When you’re clear about who you are, you’re then able to claim your personal power, and live life the way you want it to be.
Episode 18 – The Power Of Positivity – It’s Cheesy But It’s True
In today’s episode we’re looking at more “fun stuff.” These things are fun because they are all about being positive, finding the joy and good, and appreciating the people and things in your life. It’s also fun because when you spend your time looking at these things your life changes for the better, and that process is big fun to watch!
How do you show up? Are your thoughts, values, beliefs and behavior congruent? If you “walk your talk” you are authentic. However, if you say or believe one thing and do another, you give away your personal power and lose your own and other’s respect. In today’s episode we look at how you respect yourself and show up in the world.
Episode 16-Priorities and Life Balance
How do you choose to live your life? What are your priorities and how do you balance them so you have the quality of life you want? In today’s episode we look at how you determine your priorities, where you spend your time, and if that is meeting your needs.
Episode 15-Relationships and Communication Revisited
Several listeners asked us to talk more about relationships and communication, so in today’s episode we do that. Different kinds of relationships at work and elsewhere, and how the way we interact, use our personal power, and communicate, makes all difference in how things flow.
Episode 14-Powerful Communication
In today’s episode we’re talking about communication. What it is, the many different ways we do it, how it impacts all of our relationships, and the way we claim our power.
Episode 13- The Fun Stuff
In previous episodes we’ve talked about a lot of important but difficult things, so we’re excited that in today’s episode we are talking about the fun stuff! These are things like happiness, joy, fun and appreciation. We look at their importance in your life, and the ways that these things can make all the difference in how your days, and your life, unfold.
Episode 12- Anger and Shame
In today’s episode we look at Anger and Shame. Two emotions that most of us feel at various times and under different circumstances. We will look at why Anger happens, what purpose it serves, and what we can do about it. We also explore what Shame is and how to deal with it.
Episode 11- Stress and Anxiety
In today’s episode we look at Stress and Anxiety. Two emotions that we all feel at times, and have felt more often in the last 18 months because of the pandemic and other local and world situations. Many people think that stress and anxiety are the same thing, but they are not! Today we talk about the causes, the differences, how they affect you emotionally, physically and socially, and what you can do to deal with them.
Episode 10- Boundaries Revisited and Guilt
We heard from several people about their struggle with setting boundaries, so we decided to take another look at it. In today’s episode we will be talking about what setting boundaries means, how to do it, how people might react when you do, and the feelings of guilt that others might try to lay on you when you make your boundaries known.
Episode 9- Transitions,Change, Loss, and Grief
In today’s episode, we will be looking at change and how it affects you. There is an emotional process we all go through with each change, big and small, in our lives. It’s important to understand this process so you will know that what you’re feeling is normal, and how you can get through it and claim your personal power.
Episode 8- Passive, Aggressive, Assertive
In today’s episode, we will be looking at different ways of behaving: how you behave and treat others, and how others behave and treat you. It’s important to understand these different modes so you can pay attention to what you do, what you allow others to do to you, and how you can claim your personal power.
Episode 7- The Shadow
Today we’re talking about your Shadow. This is the part of you that is the
opposite of everything you want to think you are. You want to think you are all positive, but as with all in nature, we are balanced, and have an opposite side, as well. Once you identify and come to terms with your Shadow, your life will be much easier.
Episode 6- Relationships
In today’s episode, we will be talking about many of the relationships in your life and how they directly relate to your ability to claim and use your personal power as you create the life you dream of.
Episode 5- Boundaries
In today’s episode, we will be talking about boundaries and how to set them so you can be successful and achieve your goals and dreams.
Episode 4 – Inner Child and Self-Talk
In today’s episode, we’ll be talking about your inner child and self-talk, and the importance of understanding how the way you talk to yourself will directly affect your ability to be powerful.
Episode 3 – Where Did You Come From
In today’s episode, we will be talking about where you came from, and why understanding and working with this directly affects your ability to feel, and be, powerful.
Episode 2 – Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
In today’s episode, we’ll be looking at self-esteem and self-confidence, and how these two things impact the level of your personal power.
Episode 1 – Personal Power
Welcome to Your Personal Power Pod, a podcast about tapping into your personal power in order to create the life you want! Today, we’re talking about… Personal Power! What it is, where it comes from, and how you can claim yours and make it work for you!
“I want to share all I know about what it takes to be emotionally healthy so that your relationships with yourself and others will be effortless, uncomplicated, trouble-free, and fun.“
~ Sandy Abell
“You might not know it but you’re having a relationship with… YOU! That relationship affects your entire life so, shouldn’t it be as healthy and happy as possible? “
~ Shannon Young
This is a wonderful podcast. The topics discussed are great. Personally, I have learned a lot from them and they have helped me to improve in many departments. I find both Sandy and Shannon great to listen to. They make the topics interesting and enjoyable even though what they are discussing could be a tough issue to discuss. The two ladies are just great fun and make me happy just listening to them. God bless them both.Karim Tawfik
I have really enjoyed listening to these! Great tips and takeaways.Alicia
Fantastic, and speaking from a radio perspective, Super Fantastic! You compliment and highlight each other genuinely. I was engaged entirely.Jane
I am currently listening to Episode 27 – What Do You Believe, it is awesome. Thank you so much for this episode, I find it really useful and empowering. You and Shannon are fantastic. Sometimes, we make our beliefs and then our beliefs make us.Karim
Thank you once again for spreading great lessons to help people to have better lives.
Today I had a couple of significant projects to do in the backyard, edging, transplanting etc. I had been wanting to get some time to listen to Your Personal Power Pod podcast and this was the opportune time. I put on my good headphones and listened as I worked. What a great experience!Scott
I listened to the episodes “Respect”, “Routines, Habits and, Comfort Zones”, “Power and Control”, and “Do You Settle?” I really enjoyed all of them. My personal favorite was “Power and Control” and the highlight for me was when you shared your own story about your earlier marriage and how that experience was a foundational piece of your personal power journey
The content of your podcasts was very informative and the delivery was strong as well. I really enjoyed how you interact so comfortably with each other and keep the listener engaged with personal anecdotes and examples.
It was a delightful afternoon spent with the two of you! Thanks so much for sharing. I’m a fan and will be listening more in the future.